How about when he says I know you dont believe me? Or gives me access to his facebook so I can check, gives me his phone so I can go through his texts ( I dont)He does face me (the bellybutton rule) when I confront him, his voice doesnt change, he doesnt get angry.But he refuses to go to counseling and says he wants to move on with his life.. They even said he must be beating me for a reason. My gut instinct took over and I went through his email and found disgusting emails from him to other women, lining up dates to come ride his.. I dont know what to think. half the comments of women here say I think my man is cheating on me, so I decided to invade his privacy, spy on him, and find out if I can really trust him. I confronted him that morning, he was still in bed. I have felt like my husband has been cheating for year. I said I didnt like it its inapprorpriate. I just wish he could feel more secure with me and tell me he talks to girls, but they are just friends, and I know I need to tell him how I feel How do I find out if he is still pursuing other girls? Long story short he left me 3 hours away from home and went back home, after he realized he screwed up he called crying. Dont mess with a bad husband cause at the end people will put all the fault on the woman. Well I broke it to him that if we are going to work he cannot hurt me anymore because if he does I will walk out and he can never get me back. With her Facebook page full of selfies with her and other men. That is the only way to find a solution. We where together for about 2 months when I was snooping on his facebook page cause I noticed he had been messaging the same girl from our church again reading through their messages all the way back to when we was first together I saw that he had indeed cheated on my with her before we had broke up. whiteflag said: My husband gave me an STD, he wont admit that he cheated and tries to get me to believe that maybe I had it for yrs (we been married 6) and Im just seeing the signs. He just three days ago tried to strange me because I wanted to be alone and all of a sudden, he has turned into this Angel who all of a sudden wants to kiss me, touch me etc.. Does not keeping it a secret not lying about cheating make it easier for her to understand? His ex gf posted pics of my bf and her on facebook holding each other. I got married 2 yrs ago. And i really cant get much lower. wouldnt deny it wouldnt admit it. Eveneeeeven if the man were in any way shape or form justified in your mind to have an affair, there is no justification for someone cheating. 7 Reasons for Relationship Failure, He Cheated on You, But You Cant Stop Loving Him, 8 Ways to Rebuild Trust in Your Husband After Infidelity, Can You Live With a Husband You Dont Trust? I know it feels like your world is ending .. back to the women who messaged you she wants your life she is jellouse . Available on Amazon or most bookstores Kindle or paperback! He didnt really show any type of compassion at all. We hope for the best, but dont always get it. Women cheat too, they do it because the need children from different partners to keep a tribe intact. Everything the exwife told me about her husband and this woman is happenning to me now .Is there anyway I can get this man to leave me and move in with this woman, My husband paid lobola for me, but we have not finilised the traditional ceremony, but he is seeing his snons mother behind my back, Hi Im going through enough with my life as well Ive been talking to this guy for almost 2 years now he always told me he loved me an did almost anything for me then i found out he was married an now have a baby on the way i been involved with him for to long now i dont no what to do i no i need to call the quits but how someone help please. I had say yes, I live, but I think I will leave until a judge or someone competent says so. I have tried speaking to my wife about it many times but her attitude is what we did before was the past and what we do now is how it is and deal with it. I just need as many opinions I can get on whats going on.kind of makes me think its still going on because of how she said she was done and then changed her mind after he explained what happened and he couldnt help it. Then someone told me things just dont pop up like that in any search field. Its so painful. Meaning the affection/love that I deserve. He cannot tell the truth because the truth will expose him as someone not regarded as honest or honorable. To not have their lies be uncovered or mixed up. Our intimacy has came to a hault, we went from numberous times per day to maybe 1-3 times per month since March. Ive gone through fertility treatments and that is how Ive been able to get pregnant. I pray you find strength, wisdom and peace. MY HUSBAND IS LESS ROMANTICE HE PULLS AWAY FROM ME WE ARE CONSTANLY ARGUING AND FIGHTING WE DONT HAVE ANYTHING PHYSICAL ANY MORE WELL AT LEAST NOT AS MUCH AS WE US TO I LOVE HIM BUT I FEEL LIKE HES CHEATING I DONT KNOW WAT TO DO HELP PLEASE. She does not believe he feels there is a problem. I know my gut instinct is right. Before this all happened I found this phone hidden in his car.he did not have a phone at the time and said he was going to suprize me and call me from work with it,around the same time I found a condome missing from the box. I had noticed earlier that he kept texting and checking his phone. Time went on & I let it pass, still feeling guilty For not following through! We both live in the same building. The only thing you can do is take it one day at a time, and listen to your gut instincts. The internal struggle , the tug of war between disgust-rage-pain-humiliation- rejection and fear- love- desire- want- need is enough to kill you. Participants were asked to report on demographic variables such as religion, education and income. I have met her and she has apologized but I still dont trust her or him. Just disregard our time together, having children, deaths of friends and family, holidays, birthdays. For some reason knowing that it might be more emotional hurts more. He has lied and betrayed me. He used to be home by 420p when he gets off work at 3pm and now hes coming home closer to 7pm. He now works about 2 hours away from home and doesnt even stay home most of the time. If you suspect your husband is cheating on you and lying about it, why dont you leave him? This woman was bothering him at work he had her removed from his work area and she supposily left her number on his car he said he just called her to tell her to leave him alone. Half of my neighbors have known he was cheating for years. So I need a bit of help. His lover still works at the same work place than he does. Anyway, I keep a diary of his narcisstic behavior, lies, everything. Hello, just letting you know that I have never done this before. He got VERY ugly, snapped, etc., Im no fool tho & KNOW if he really cared as hed claimed hed have never spoken to me like that, I snapped back at him & went off on him! If he can't be honest nor consider your well being then you have o act. NOT his typical behavior so now it has me wondering. Please give me your advise.I think my husband has cheated on me with my sister-in-law.my signs are a strong gut feeling and i have seen him looking at her butt several times and and about 4 years ago my sis-in-law and my brother were our neighbors and my brother is a captain offshore so he was gone often.I came home one day and pulled up and my husband came out of there house and the only one that was home was my sis-in-law and my neice which was a baby about 9 months old.when i asked him why he was over there he said he went to see the baby.He has gone out of his way to help her we would have a party and she would be dancing and he would just stare at her.When i would asked him if he did anything with her he gets mad at me and has even cried.then he tells me keep it up just keep it up.So i told him i was going to ask her he got very defensive and said i would not do it because it is gonna cause problems and my relationship with her will never be tha same that i am gonna look stupid when we talk about it he always turns away from me and shakes his head.I did ask her and she said no way i would never do that but she also got caught cheating on my brother before i wonder sometime if that is why i feel this way.I told him i was gonna talk to my brother about it and he got very defensive he said because of my feelings that i am pushing him away so he turns everything around on me and makes me believe i have a problem.Do I?What can i do to stop this feeling how do i find out the truth because my gut will not let it go.They now will barely talk to eachother she still puts herself in his face but he is tryin to ignore her.But i still catch him looking at her body parts and then he tells me u can;t see through my eyes i was not looking at her body parts but my eyes do not lie to me and i know what i see.Me and him have been together since 94 and have 2 kids together so please let me know what u think about this and how i should go about finding out the truth even if i have to sneak around the truth and lie i need to know the truth or is he telling tha truth.Please let me know what u think am i crazy for feeling this way or am i just jealous or is it him that has a problem.Thank u, Well Im sure my story isnt any different, from the others. I screamed at him why? Most women, I think, would feel that way, too. Like all women, we fell hook, line and sinkerThey got us, but still wants to live the single life. The only reason i think people who have been married for years might have a chance at fixing it, is because they built a relationship and fell in love with each other once. if you would like to get some more information about how to deal with these kind of situation just click on my nickname in the title of the comment. When asked about it, he said he wasasleep & he never heard the phone, but when at home or anywhere else he always answers even if hes asl. I dont think its stupid to fall in love with a man, trust him, and believe that your marriage is healthy and happy. So I fell for it only to find out his real plan was to hurt me and steal everything I got from my parents passings. My aunt had a suspicion and sure enough the guy she hired presented evidence within a matter of days on the job. I will share my experience and suggest a motive for infidelity amongst men and women. I know that sounds harsh, but you know better. You deserve better!!! BUT, I always go home to my wife at the end of the day, just as the ladies go home to their partners too. he use to want to have sex 4 to 5 times a week and now if we do it once a week he doesnt mind. I just found out that my husband cheated on me last night which he told me he was working late. then when i was pregnant with his child i left an answerphone message on her moby saying not to send x on text i find it offensive ( bareing in mind my fiance knew my ex husband had an affair with a woman at work so i felt fragile . Thats the question, bcause it seems like all men are cheaters! Hes been to the doctor , the doctor said that he has a problem with the blood flow and has been given viagra . If i say i understand whats happening in my marriage now am lying. I think you know the right answer. The blaming me part, denying everything until you find out. It sounds like your marriage is pretty much finished unless your very forgiving. well she done had the 3rd kid and he is now 3 months old and he is still bouncing back and forth between me and her so i told him he is either going to choose me or her again not even a month went by i went through my phone records cuz i paid for him to have a phone and i found a number i didnt recognize and i called it come to find out he had been talking to another girl and been hanging out wit her so i went and met her and she showed me all the txt messages she was straight up honest wit me so evidently 2 of us wasnt enough he needed 3 women in his life and i come to find out that im pregnant with his child and through all of this his baby mama wit the 3 she found out i was going to have his child so she took her 3 kids and left finally she was gona it was jus me and him things were finally going good i was starting to trust him then he goes to jail for 2 days and i go and get him out and he swore up and down to me that things were going to be different so 2 weeks before my due date to have our child i go back to my house for a couple days and go to my doctor appt alone again and i find out that he had been talking to his other baby mama and she was now back down at his house living there again so i leave for 2 days and he brings her back so i told him that he would regret that for the rest of his life and he is because he didnt get to see his son born. Hi, Thank you! My mind started going crazy. I also told her how I felt and tried to explain my perspective. I hope you have friends or family that you can lean on, to help you through this. I dunno what to think my gut tells me he has been unfaithful to me and i dunno what to do or whether to believe my gut or not 1 I dont understand? I wrote this article for you I hope it helps! Obviously, the connection between the two of you is suffering. Witch makes me think if hes having a affair that its not physical but emotional. Why do you choose men like this? He swears that they have no contact anymore and he wants to make it work with me. At this point, anything you endure is your own fault. Hes made it out like Im the one crazy. Its hard to leave when he may or may not have cheated. There were just too many loose ends that were unexplainable or the excuses just didnt really make any sense. Remy- sorry that you are going through this. Now he is talking to this girl he sees at work who babysits his bosses kids. Emotionally, sexually, every aspect. cheated while Id be out and about. Dear Crazy Lady, Don't predicate your healing on what your ex does or does not do. This just so happens to be the EXACT situation I am currently in with my husband! Constantly twisting the truth? So you can see where Im thrown off. How can we move past this and will he ever cheat again? It got a little more advanced with the cuddling and so on but we ended up stopping and he left. I am 24. The only person you have any control over is you. Im sorry, but I dont understand why youre staying with this man. I am extremly heart broken and lost. 10? You will regret wasting your life with a man that clearly has no respect for you and most likely doesnt even love you. thank you. As a young person, I know how painful it is to not know which adults you can trust. Hes not as interested in physical intimacy as he was before, He picks fights or starts arguments with you. I feel like I have lived the past 15 years in hell with Satan himself!!! I also think hes still eyeing other candidates and other woman but hasnt stepped over the line. May you talk to the right people, read the right books, and connect with the right sources of healing, courage, and strength. He was secretive with his emails and phone. Then, we had a breakup, and he immediately started talking to her again. I never forgot his birthday. He said you heard me. Then came the phone bill. He dont see how this is affected or family.. The open and honest communication you and your husband are having now is awesome. Even when we were driving him to college he was talking to her on the phone and making plans to meet up with her at our sons college town! We all are asking the same question why ???? I do not think I will ever be But life goes on and Im curious to see how this turns out, Keep you head up. Now hes decided he wants the marriage to work, but how do I know hes serious? I knew it was bc she was nearby. He told me he doesnt want that stuff around his child and i told him to stop drinking and as soon as i said that he said show me where to sign my rights away and you can go back to flolrida.. then i cry blah blah blah he gets over but i didnt and he is nice to me. Please. But I dont think he has ever had an encounter with another woman. My husband has been loving all this time except for some occassional fights u know. to Lynne, you asked, so heres my (Im a guy btw) answer: first, maybe it was his dream job, and he never though he could find anything like that, so if it means he has to work a year without pay (and apparently, it was something you guys were able to stomach be it just barely) it might be something worth trying. He has always needed attention from women, hes very friendly & flirty with women. Hi Kim, I recently had a very similar experience with my long term boyfriend (13 years). I believe my husband is cheating on me. Its not easy to pick up and leave, is it? So, the first I notice as I log on: pictures of him and a girl on his destop. I thought about just living with it, since I am over 50 yrs old .. but its not worth it. That will require following him & having definitive evidence to give to him. ~ Anything else would mean I would stay and keep sending myself the message that I am not good enough ..not worth it. And is always accusing me of messing around. He said she bought a car from him and the car broke down. recently 6 months ago he started new job an old co-worker we both worked for got him job. He made profiles as recent as two weeks ago. End of discussion. Which makes you question the way you look and dress, and could even make you wonder about your personality. How to know what love is, on quips and tips for love and relationships. Makes me feel bad when I dont want to have sex. He's not going to change his character-assassinating . Youre stronger than you know! Maybe your gut knows something that your heart doesnt want to accept. Women who are dissatisfied with their relationship are more than twice as likely to cheat; those who feel they are sexually incompatible with their partners are nearly three times as likely. Ive had a hysterectomy in 2007 so there was no need for condoms. He lost you the moment he strayed. Im exhausted disappointed. She relpied by saying she didnt think he could have friends that were girls. And, even if you justified that and counted all the wonderful things about this guy and pointed out the amazing loss of a potentially wonderful friendship with him, you still identify the loss of his friendship as a risk. So is this the reason you are asking women who have suffered financial loss, emotional pain beyond words because you want to be sure to get a different perspective from women who have suffered so you can prevent yourself from making a mistake and taking an unnecessary risk? be abusive towards you? I prayed with someone else ( where two or more are together Jesus is in the midst). Now as I am older with 6 grandkids that we truly love and enjoy, I dont think I do want to know the details..There are not enough years left in my life to hold all the tears. I know it was a long shoot but knowadays with our cell phones being our food which we can not live with out if a husband is cheating on you. His excuses was he was not happy. Those are questions only you can answer. I want to get out but i dont know what to do. I go to his facebook messages. How can i trust or get him to admit. I feel like if u separate temporarily you guys may rediscover why you fell in love and get back to a healthy, loving, trusting, and respectful relationship. I tell him what Id like, get it for about 2 weeks and then nothing from him until I nag at him or question him on why he isnt present in making this work. So 3 months later, I moved out of state. Forgive him. I never know what to say when people ask me for help! lets say, that for what ever reason, he had sex with someone else. I never confronted him on it. hi my husband and i just got married barely 3months ago but we have been seeing each other for almost 3years before marriage.during our courtship he was the sweetest person i ever knew and so i did all i could to keep the relationship,i got pregnant for him and that was what triggered our marriage and from that time till now i found out he was just a totally different person. I never had any doubts about him trusted him whole heartdly to me he could do no wrong. He always denied,Iam really sick and tired his way. I feel awful for you you sound sweet and loving. This past December, there was a woman who came up to us at the bar and introduced herself to me. He used to call me like 5 times a day and now its been like once or twice a day for 5-10mins each. So now there`s none of that. My husband finally admited he had a drug problem. A neighbor? I can tell you every word you wrote resonated with me. And from the way she tells the story sex was involved. He has been really attentive and we make love often (but we used to before anyway) but still the doubts creep in. Ive heard her voice on the other end of the line more than once. But she lived far away and I just did not allow it to consume my thoughts. What you dont realize is the pain you are enduring is worse and unending until you make that change. This is me, except Im accessible to his lies via email, phone bills, etc. There are so many shades of grey and complications that make decisions very difficult. He is 55. I want to believe he still loves me but it is really hard. Power, opportunity, money increases testosterone. Hi, my husband and I have been married for a little over a year. Well, just recently he decides to come up to me and say that he thinks we should have an open realationship. He doesnt take as much time for me as he could. My prayer for you is that you find the resources you need to move past your husbands past. It sounds like youve been struggling with your husband for a long time, and youre confused about what to do. Suspicion, paranoia, and distrust are unpleasant, unhappy places to be. He didnt battle in the sense of ups and downs, he was always fairly calm. Science has shown that genetic redundancy produces problems in offspring. Dont trust what he says. For kicks, Im going to take a picture of him asleep in our livingroom. There is no one right piece of advice, no black and white answer that will solve your problem. I feel so humiliated and betrayed. They dont make good fathers either. He woukd rather die in his addiction and never set the truth free. I dream about her weekly, the fighting with my husband is more frequent than ever. Sometimes we cant see reality because were too busy, preoccupied, tired, or even not ready to face the truth. He started smoking and just acting very strange. Two days after he returned to work and stopped at her relatives house where she was. hes constantly texting another girl and they always flirt with each other. His dreams are never happy he says. He does not deserve your love or loyalty. I dont want to fight with him. Too bad for him cause hes in his undies, lol. Why would you want to be with a man who does this to other women when hes in a relationship with you? Not only has your faith and trust in your husband been destroyed, but he also has one step in his cheating life. If he wont go, that is not a good sign (doesnt mean hes necessarily cheating, might just mean he doesnt care), which could be a worse situation than just cheating. You have to take this journey and I pray along the way, you find the real Jennifer in all her glory, living life and loving life as it should be. He then walked off into another room. Get yourself over to the weights and make your body stronger. I feel that, instead of seeing how they react during, watch them afterwards. He is treating you disrespectably. When confronted he totally flipped and I know now, something happened between them. Check the banking statement of your husband. He doesnt text anymore or call. I have pulled away significantly since, where right after all this came out, I tried my best to help him. Don't berate. Talk about someone you know who has been cheated on and how she felt and what she went through. I cant really explain it, and I dont know if he makes comments to test me or to try to get me to stop talking about exs and making him uncomfortable, but I wish he could just tell me how he feels. God gave me my sex drive. I am not in love with him anymore and i am not attracted to him anymore. If your husband hadn't cheated with this woman it would have been another woman. Men are highly overrated. couldnt answer why she sent him pictures. Tonight I literally felt sick to my stomach because he wont even sit by me or look me in the eye. Good luck and be strong! You are to good to spend your life being lied to he has broken his vows to you on more then one occasion. When she swore at me, he took her side, saying I deserved it he never once made me feel I was his one and only, in fact complete the opposite so yes, I feel cheated, both emotionally, physically and the fact that he will not sincerely apologise intensifies my sense of loss for a person I truly believed would never ever put me through that kind of shame!!! My opinion is he is cheating but the call girl thing suggests hes looking for sex more than anything else. I accidently discovered some condoms in his suitcase. I found message from other women wishing him Happy Thanksgiving and I found message from women texting him her new #. End of story. This is a decision only you can make. Am i being crazy for over reacting? I in therapyAs far as I know the wife still with him, knowing he cheats. I could t hear the message cause his phone is blocked, but I honestly suspect he keeps lying to me. ONE DAY HE ASKED IF IT WAS HARD FOR ME TO TALK IN THE OFFICE ND I TOLD HIM YES. I was reading these articles and I ran into your comment. About 3 months ago(2015) on a Thursday morning at 7:50am in the morning my husbands cell phone rang while we were being intimate. My Husband Cheated On Me (10 Things You Should Do Immediately), The most important thing you need to do after hearing this devastating news is to find out if its, 1: Make Sure Hes Actually Cheating On You, 10: If You Take Your Husband Back, Make Sure Youre Happy, A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. IT MIGHT SOUND SO STRANGE TO YOU BUT IT FEELS LIKE ME WHEN I READ YOURS MY HUSBAND HAS BEING HAVING AFFAIR WITH HIS PERSONAL ASSISTANT FOR ABOUT 3 YEARS NOW AND IT WAS NOT HIM WHO SPILLED THE BEANS IT WAS HER AND WHEN I ASK HE GETS ANGRY AND DENIES IT ALL THE TIME BUT I KNOW IT HAS BEEN HAPPENING THE LYING , WORKING LATE THEY ALWAYS TOGETHER BUYS HIS CLOTHES GOES TO THE CHEMIST TAKES HIS CLOTHES TO THE TAILORS AND BELIEVE ME SHE IS NOTHING TO LOOK AT SHE IS HUGE AND SO OVER WEIGHT AND SHE IS ALWAYS AT OUR HOUSE IM A HAIRDRESSER SO I WORK WEEKENDS SO WHEN I GET HOME SHE WILL BE AT OUR HOUSE TILL LATE IT HAS GOT SO BAD THAT I HAVE BANNED HER FROM OUR HOUSE MY BOYS ALSO DONT LIKE HER IT FEELS LIKE SHE IS HIS SECOND WIFE. And most importantly stop accusing him and telling him everything you know. He says, if Im going to treat him like crap then hes not going to do anything for me. He will continue to cheat as long as you are with him. She would critesise me on things likeIf i see someone doing somthing wrong and I talk to her about it, she replies with something els I did wrong. He likes to run to my family and say cam doing everything wrong i dont have enough sex with him.. Lol sorry i just cant. But then he wont work on giving me the attention or affection or time with him that I need. Maybe your fiance doesnt want to or cant settle down. That results from breeding within small populations with people in the same gene pool.defects crop up. He never really says he loves me or goodnight or good morning and when I confront him about it he apologizes, says hell change it, but does nothing and still ignores me. Just a week before I said to him that if someone came up to me and said you cheated on me I would not believe them I trust you 150% and he looked at me with love eyes. my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 years and we just had a baby girl dec 2012. i recenlty found conversations of him talking to other girls on facebook, one being my so called best friend. We been married for 10yrs . I was friends with him for years before we even ever dated. He accused me of nagging him, disrespecting him, not trusting him! Then little by little he began weaving his was into my life, we became very emotionally close! I dont want it to be true- because it would hurt me so much more than the suspicion that it may have happened, but I need to be realistic and realise that it may have, and that hurts just as much. You also cant guarantee that you can trust your husband forever. If youre confused, read 11 Undeniable Signs of Cheating Wisdom After the Affair. if so, than sex is not the issue here. 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